We are in the field of personal development. We love to see people thrive and grow in a beautiful way. We sure love to do it ourselves, as well.
But… and this is a huge BUT nobody prepares you for… it is going to get worse before it gets better.
The “miracle” of personal development and all the accomplishments that are often presented to us are only the tip of the iceberg.
The ugly truth
When I started my personal development journey back in 2013 I was excited at first about getting to know myself better and discover my skills and mentality, also I was so eager to reach that glow phase that everyone was talking about.
Well… no need to say that I got there after almost 7 years and there is still a lot to do.
Why? Because after being curious, as I usually am, I hit a wall and a whole of my patterns and behaviors that were so neatly covered up that I could barely remember or see them properly.
Once I started there was no way back. The only way was to move forward and go through the pain that I uncovered.
Disassembling myself and putting myself back together was the hardest thing I have ever done.
Grow through the pain
It’s not remembering the bad and covering it with flowers. Personal development it’s mostly about analyzing what you did, which were the elements of your decisions, how you were a contributor to your own circumstances, how you attracted things that were bad for you simply because you believed that was all that you were deserving and many more.
After I’ve unraveled myself with brutal honesty, I thought well, now it should only get better, right? Well, no! Why? Because you have to work to put yourself back together and you also have to know who you are in order to do that.
So, phase number two was to define my identity, starting with the smallest action and questioning my every move by asking “Is this really me? Is this the society that I am living in? Am I making this decision for myself? Is this in alignment with my values?” Oh, trust me, when you just want to go to work and have a nice casual day, these types of questions can really color your lenses.
Being able to analyze and intentionally change my mental and behavior patterns was a difficult task. And the thing is, it’s not a one time deal, it’s a constant routine that you engage in.
The only way to do it is to grow through your pain. Go through the bad, the ugly, the evil, the nasty, the beautiful, the courageous, the positive and the innocent facets of yourself that served you so well up until now.
It will get better, and it will get better in ways that you couldn’t even imagine, up until now. Always bet on yourself!
So there it is, hope I have answered some of your questions. Leave a comment or message me for more.