Lesson 1: Becoming visible
Ripping off the band-aid: I’m an introvert so putting myself out there is really difficult for me. Getting myself exposed for who I am and for the message that I’d like to transmit is uncomfortable. Even though I’ve done it in small groups, at work, in a limited seating number of events, but getting a video out in the open is something that I’m learning how to do.
Letting go of perfectionism: Also, the fact that I’m a perfectionist doesn’t help in the process of launching a video even on TikTok for example as short as 5-10 seconds. When you are a perfectionist you see all the other videos that are better than yours, but the thing is that it can never be perfect, you will always have some areas to improve.
Lesson 2: Turning tables with accountability
At the start of this year I’ve launched a new program called “Your Daily I AM Statement” which is specially designed to get you started on surfacing your true self. I also committed to sending out daily statements, plus videos. Doesn’t sound much right? But the thing is, that life happens. So I woke up several times after due to my anxiety didn’t get much sleep overnight and still delivered everything that I said I would. This might not seem much, but trust me I struggled with every excuse in my head to make it happen… and there were quite a few. Holding myself accountable for my own goal shifted my perspective entirely. Also, it made me realize that I have more control over my life than I could have ever imagined. So everything that I do is based on my input over it. This right here dismantled not only the excuses that I had, but also any future excuses that I might have moving forward. This is a great win.
Lesson 3: Everything matters
It might sound like a lot, but let me explain it. When I started recording the first videos, I had no idea of the how for example how to set up the lighting, how to have the right angle, how to have a clear sound and so on. I’ve also learned to be short and relevant while communicating. I’m not saying I’m an expert on it, because it’s a learning curve, but I definitely made some significant progress from my first video up until the end of the first month. Now, I’m even more excited to see where I am going to be at the end of this year.
Lesson 4: What needs to be done
I am an anxious person so how I feel influences my daily outcomes even though I’m working very hard to do and deliver what I planned for that day. What I’ve learned after 1 month of daily I am statement is that I need to detach myself from what I am feeling at a certain moment in time and prioritize what needs to be done. This helped me keep myself focused and mentally kept me on track. Usually I would have gone down a spiral of anxious thoughts and would have changed my mind or have made decisions based on my momentary feeling, which is not recommended ever.
Lesson 5: Changing my mind
I also learned to focus on being and not on doing. Before this program I have never realized how many things I was doing that were no longer serving me. I’ve been having responsibilities that I took on years ago, contacts on social media platforms that I distanced myself from even though I kept them there, events that I have been attending for so long and many more things that I’ve been doing on an auto-pilot. I found myself questioning “Why am I doing this?” and the single answer was “because I’ve been doing it in the past”. My first reaction was, well that’s not a good answer.
So I started allowing myself to change my mind. To let go of everything that does not serve me anymore, doesn’t bring me joy or pleasure, everything that doesn’t make me a better person for tomorrow. Letting go was euphoric. At first I was afraid, but afterwards I just kept getting better at it. I still have cleaning up to do, but I feel like I’m on the right track with it by being crystal clear on serving my purpose.
Myth 1: Obliged to be positive
Lately being positive got wrongly associated with personal development. The need to force yourself to smile or be happy no matter what is definitely not a part of personal development. Whoever went through it knows exactly what I’m talking about. It is painful, shocking and it’s hard to do it alone. Keeping a forced positivity does not serve you, it just gets you worse, because your body and thinking are not aligned, and your mind knows it. This is called toxic positivity.
Having a positive mindset is a long process where you analyze the data that you have, you face the facts, you go through the decision making phase being aware of your thinking patterns and creating a system which will sustain your decision.
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Myth 2: Manifest it and it will happen
Oh dear! I can not even emphasize this enough: manifestation or visualization is not imagination! This has been brutally simplified! Just imagine: if it were this simple everybody would be living in their dream house, having their dream job and so on. Now, observe that I’ve intentionally said “imagine” the above. I’m pretty sure that we can agree, now that you imagined this, it doesn’t mean it will happen to everybody overnight, right? So let’s break it down.
Visualization requires several intellectual faculties in order to make it work such as planning, management, will, courage, strategy, knowledge and expertise, while imagination is only a part of this. By using visualization you project your outcome, you definitely don’t “invent” it out of the bloom.
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