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How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs

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Ah the curious case of limiting beliefs – never enough articles about them. Here is another one and hopefully it will match your language to determine a shift. Let’s go. 

 

What are beliefs?

Beliefs are general statements that we acknowledge and accept as the ultimate truth. These can relate to your own person, others or the world in general. 

The trap with beliefs is that we rarely dismantle them. They have the status of profound convictions that are not even up for debate. This is exactly why it is so hard to change them. 

 

What are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are convictions that do not serve us. Are general truths usually inherited or heard in our environment which we take for granted and do not question them. 

Now, believe it or not, but there are many forms of limiting beliefs that do much more harm than serve your purpose, or even your own happiness. You might ask yourself, well wouldn’t that be obvious? You just get rid of them. Why would you continue believing something that does not make you happy?!  It’d be only logical, right?! 

Let’s see a list of random limiting beliefs:

  • You have to work hard in order to have money.
  • Rich people are bad people.
  • Honest work can not get you rich.
  • You have to be corrupted to be a politician.
  • A woman can not talk back. 

Let’s go through this list together. As you might already observe these are general statements without any facts to support them. They are not determined in time, space, geographically nor having a clear subject or environment in which it was pointed. Now, imagine if you’d be a scientist, without any subject, any environmental factors, no determination of time, no logical case and effect image – your whole thesis would fall before you’d have even started your research. 

Also, another good marker to identify your limiting beliefs while speaking, is to be attentive at the phrase “If… then…” For example, if I get famous, then I’d be unhappy. Now, this type of phrasing is a classic way of discovering not only your beliefs, but other people’s limiting beliefs as well. 

 

How to overcome limiting beliefs?

Firstly, you will need to identify them. So follow the tip from above. Next, of course you’ll have to write it down. But why all the writing in personal development?! Because actual writing gives you the experience of putting that thought out in the open and have the possibility to detach yourself from it, thus analyze it with a clear eye set. Continue with remembering all the situations or people that might have contributed to your limiting beliefs. In most cases, you might even find out that they are not even yours, you just borrowed them from someone else. Well, it’s time to give it back and let it go. After this phase, try to find real life evidence to support or not  your limiting belief. Ah, one thing – very important – ask yourself “What am I willing to sacrifice to let it go?” The truth is that in it’s own way it supported you, whether protecting you from an imaginary danger or any other cases. So, you  will need to let go of those benefits, the false sense of security or other, and start imaging yourself without this limiting belief. Practice the art of “What if…” What if I can work at my own pace and make a lot of money? What if I can be rich and also be a good person? What if I can do honest work and have a lot of money? Even though this might seem as a simple exercise, it will shift your subconscious mind to look for other outcomes. 

No, it’s not going to work as a magical pill and yes, you will have to work daily on it to make it happen. Get going. 

 

So there it is, hope I have answered some of your questions. Leave a comment or message me for more. 

Stay curious, 

Renata

 

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