So you’ve had conversations before, right?! Hehe. Like bad ones, good ones, expected and unexpected ones, the ones that surprised you or even drained you. Some maybe made you even more sad than you wanted to.
Even though we are there for our friends to hear them out, listen to them when they are sharing their best and worst moments, maybe we are not ready all the time. Maybe we need just a moment of being there without any brand new information to get dumped on us.
Here is what nobody taught me before conversations
Just ask the one that you’re talking to if they are ready to be shared with information that might affect their inner state – simple as that.
It can be news which might alter their well being causing stress, pressure, discomfort or any other feelings.
“Can I share with you some distressing information which happened to me?”
“Do you want to hear some bad news about a friend of mine?”
How about that for a conversation starter?!
We are very eager to share our stories and happenings to our loved ones, friends, family and so on, but we never ask if they are ready or willing to share news we have.
Plus, just have in mind that they might be going through some personal stuff that has a great impact on them. It can be difficult to handle the situations they already have. So your news might not help at all.
Always have in mind their inner state and well being. Nobody wants to be ditched with unnecessary information which might ruin their day.
Practice the art of ecology in your conversations.
So there it is, hope I have answered some of your questions. Leave a comment or message me for more.
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